I DON’T HAVE TIME.
How many times, as busy moms, do we say this to ourselves?
Before this all happened and we were going through the daily motions of life I’m sure most of us thought about time a lot.
You wake up thinking, I wish I had more time in bed. I wish I had time to workout. You hurry to get yourself ready for work, check the time…time to wake up the kids.
It’s taking them so much time to get dressed and get to the table. It’s a quick breakfast today because that’s all we have time for. You say, let’s go guys, hurry, mommy has work to do or mommy has to go to work, you can’t miss the bus, you’re going to be late for school, etc.
Next, you are hurrying to get to work on time. Do I have time to pick up a coffee? Forget it, the line is too long. Maybe you get caught behind a school bus or a driver who has a little more time to take it slow.
You get to work having thought of time, or the lack of it, so many times you don’t even notice you’re doing it.
Next, you work until it’s time for your break…no, forget it, too busy, no time for breaks today.
You get home, chit chat with the kiddos about their day and then make a quick meal because that’s all there is time for before swimming lessons. You hurry the kids to get washed up and dressed after lessons because they seem to be in no rush at all and you just want to get home, so you can finish tidying up, get laundry done, get lunches made, get ready for work and then relax (zone out watching Netflix).
All this so that you can hurry up to go to bed way too late. Sound familiar?
WHAT THE HECK?! Why do we do this? Why is this the norm?
Is that what you are here on this earth to do? Is that a quality life? I promise you that is not the only choice.
We talk about time freedom, spare time, quality time, me time, but how do you start? Why bother?
Your time is YOUR LIFE. You have a finite amount of time on this earth. Tick tock. This is not meant to make you feel worse about how little time there is, but rather to be mindful of how you are spending it. Stop going through the motions.
If the phone rings, you have the choice to answer. Feel like you only have time for a shower, but would rather take a bath? TAKE THE BATH. Take your work breaks. Heck, just take a break.
Taking five minutes to just sit there in a day can be so uncomfortable at first. Imagine setting that timer and doing nothing for five full minutes. Was it a waste of time? Hell no. For the first time in a long time, perhaps you heard your inner voice. You thought about something that was bugging you a bit, came up with a solution for something, remembered something, had an idea, took a deep breath, felt gratitude, let yourself feel sad, cried out the overwhelm, laughed at a funny thought, loosened your tense muscles, the list goes on and on.
We always talk about how busy we are. Like that’s just the way it is. It comes out of our mouths without even thinking about it. We feel overwhelmed and chaotic, so it automatically means that we have no time.
I’d like to propose a thought. You need to make time. You get to choose. Say no stuff that doesn’t excite you. You know when something is a yes, you FEEL it. Your breaths get a little shorter, your mouth smiles and you can actually feel the joy in your heart just by thinking about it and you never forget the event or appointment. We always find a way to make time for the important stuff. Listen to yourself. You know when it’s a NO.
White space is important. Take that five minutes.
It’s easier said than done, yes. Baby steps. I’ve found that the more I make time for things that matters to me like meditation or a simple walk, the more of me there is for everyone else. You can’t give from an empty bucket. Ever.
When you stop doing things you don’t care about or that don’t add value to your life you make space for the things that do.
Be intentional about your day. Make sure you make time for the things you love and ultimately you will stop wasting it and feel less overwhelm, you will have high quality days, your kids will see you smile, you won’t be so eager for their bed time and you will be on your way to creating a life you love.
You deserve to protect your time.
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Have you ever met someone who maybe didn’t check off all the boxes like perfect outfit, perfect teeth, perfect height, perfect hair, or everything else that comes with that cover model look, BUT they had something special? Their soul was inviting, they oozed kindness, you could feel the joy in their heart and their authenticity. Was she beautiful? Yes, in a different way.
Then there’s the woman that looked completely put together. The flawless makeup and contouring. The perfect spray tan. The trendy outfit and poised walk. A knockout by industry standards, BUT something was missing. She seemed cold. Standoffish. She had an unapproachable presence. Was she beautiful? Yes, in a different way.
Really, there are so many opinions on what true beauty is. Neither one of the women described above are better than the other if they are being true to themselves, but I made the comparison because I think we can all relate to the experience. There are some women who have some qualities and characteristics from both scenarios. We are all unique. It’s worth thinking about what you want to put out in the world. Why not highlight your natural features and be a unique package?
When you dress in a way that FEELS good on your skin, you ooze confidence. Whether that’s stilettos or Birkenstocks, I think it’s important to stay true to yourself.
When you smile you automatically feel better and become more attractive to others. More inviting.
Confidence is beautiful. This can mean different things to different people. To me, the confidence that equals beauty is when a woman is sure of her worth. She just has a knowing that she’s a good person. She cares about taking care of herself, and cares for others too. She’s loving and is excited about life.
In short, beauty doesn’t have to be physical. Does going to the gym, putting on makeup and dressing in trendy clothes make you feel beautiful? Then do that. Absolutely. Just consider the rest of the package because if the inside doesn’t match you will feel disconnection with people. Humans are instinctual and can FEEL if something is off.
I love to wear makeup. I feel like it makes me feel ready for my day and ready to meet people and put my best self forward. I’ve done a ton of soul work and have built my confidence over time as I learned my worth. I like to wear makeup in a way that just highlights my features rather than changing my appearance entirely. It’s a polish, but not a mask.
I invite you to think about who YOU really are and put the best version of yourself (inside and out) in the world.
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Do you ever go to bed having over indulged or your tummy just not feeling quite right? Do you have issues with digestion or wake up bloated before even having breakfast?
This nightly banish bloat drink has helped me with all of these issues so much!
The raw apple cider vinegar in this drink helps to control blood sugar, supports your metabolism and supports a healthy gut by promoting good bacteria.
These ingredients help with your digestion and encourage healthy detox which can reduce your bloat and even help clear your skin as you eliminate more toxins.
You will feel so much better after even just one week of doing this every night. I make sure it’s the last thing I consume before bed. You can even start your morning with the same drink if you prefer.
I love to add a drop of Thieves vitality essential oil for added immune support and delicious taste.
If you don’t have any of this EO, you can add a sprinkle of cinnamon to make it more flavourful. Or go without the extra cinnamon flavour :).
I’ve been drinking this nightly for over two years now and when I don’t do it, I sure do miss it! It has become a big part of my nightly routine. Give it a try for a week and leave a comment below to let me know how you feel. What improvements have you noticed in your body?