The REAL Reason You Are So Tired

The REAL Reason You Are So Tired
WHY AM I SO TIRED?
 
I want to offer a new perspective on one of THE MOST common phrases we all hear and say almost on the daily.
 
Is there more to it than just lack of sleep or improper diet?  What about those who eat right, exercise and sleep okay and are otherwise healthy, but something still isn’t right.  I’m not talking about those with a sleep disorder or underlying health issue, just the majority of humans who feel “exhausted” most of the time.  
 
When you say you feel so tired, what do you actually mean?  I can assume you have “low energy”.  What if rather than just feeling physically low in energy, you considered “low frequency energy”.  Yes, that’s right.  How you feel emotionally can directly affect your physical state.  Most people think, I’m cranky because I’m tired.  What if you feel tired, because you are cranky?
 
How you feel emotionally is always a reflection of the thoughts you keep thinking.  If you are thinking a lot of negative (low frequency) thoughts, you will feel the negative emotions.  If you are focused on problems, or something that you want, but don’t have, you experience lack and negative emotion.  

The same is true on the positive side.  If you are thinking about all the things you appreciate about your life, you will feel the positive emotion.  You will feel more excited and energized. 
 
If you focus on all that you appreciate, the possibilities out there, good people around you, it would be pretty hard to not feel invigorated.
 
So, what to do if you are feeling “low vibe”?
 
First check out the Emotional Guidance Scale to assess the current emotions you're feeling here.  From there you can see what the next best feeling emotion would be so that you can actually recognize when you are moving up the scale and are feeling better energetically.

 
The following are a few quick ideas to start raising your energy.
 
  • Think of someone you care about.  When you focus on someone who is easy to love, you open up your heart and start to feel a shift toward happiness.
  • Meditate.  Meditation will keep you from focusing on the past or future and centre you in the present moment.  It can also calm your anxiety and has so many other health benefits that collectively raise your vibe.
  • Watch an uplifting show or listen to music that makes you happy.  The way we consume content can really affect our mood, good or bad.  Take control of what you allow into your head and start to notice how you feel in your body when you are watching something, listening to a song or scrolling on Instagram.
  • Assess your friend circle.  You need to guard your relationships because spending time with low-vibe, negative people can only bring more of that in your life.  If your friends are uplifting and encouraging this will add to the collective mood, raise your vibe and add to the quality of your life.
  • Connect with Mother Nature Nature is deeply healing and can really invigorate you and your spirit.  Get outside even for a few minutes a day.
  • Breathe in or diffuse high quality essential oils - citrus oils always help to bring on a happy heart.
Sending you nothing but high vibes,
Tina xo

What are some of the ways you raise your vibration and get to a better feeling mood?  Let us know in the comments.

I Don’t Have a Dream. Now What?

I Don’t Have a Dream.  Now What?
You’ve heard it a million times.  DO WHAT YOU LOVE.  Heck, I say it often, “do more of what you love”.  I could think of so many things that I enjoy doing now, but it wasn’t always that way.
 
There was a time that I couldn’t even hear what my heart wanted.  I didn’t really have anything I felt passionately about.  I didn’t have any hobbies that I enjoyed.  I was just going through the motions.  I would dabble here and there, but that was about it.  No time to really care about that stuff.
 
Is this you?  Are you like, what the heck do I even want to do with myself when I have 15 minutes to spare?
 
Growing up, I never knew what I wanted to do.  I know many people know what they wanted to be as a little girl, but that just wasn’t me.  I’ve learned that I couldn’t hear my dream because it wasn’t safe to dream.  I didn’t feel supported and I didn’t have high hopes. Dreaming big would have only led to disappointment, so my mind didn’t go there.
 
If you can relate to this, perhaps you walked a similar path to what I did.  I chose the wrong relationships and didn’t have healthy boundaries and just went through the motions telling myself I was "content".  
 
It’s so easy to tell ourselves we are happy keeping it simple and content with very little because it’s an easy way out.  I felt this way and always said, I just go with the flow.  This was true, but I knew deep down it was more than that.  


As life got better,  I married a man I love and became a mom.  I busied myself with being a great mom, a good wife, a dedicated employee, kept a clean house and I actually enjoyed all of these things.  Here's the thing, I STILL didn’t know what else I wanted out of life.  What was I into? 
 
I had this feeling that I was meant for something more, but it was such a faint whisper.  Always with me, but never loud enough for me to really hear.  Being a wife and mother was the only dream I had ever had. I had accomplished that and was living it every day, but outside of that,  I felt stalled at work.  I felt untapped. The question remained, what the heck was I meant to do?

Fast forward to present day, and my dreams and ideas of what is possible actually keep me up at night.  In the BEST way.  So how did I find them?
 
I DECIDED it was important to me and that I was ready to hear them.
 
Then, I made space for them.
 
We are so busy “being busy”.  Telling ourselves we don’t have time, and that we are fine as things are, but we are tired and overwhelmed.  Here a some suggestions that have made a HUGE difference in my life.
 
Learn to quiet your mind.  

Seriously, if you can’t hear your dream, you need to press PAUSE on life.  Take 5 minutes and sit quietly without distractions to hear what your own thoughts are.
 
Stop soaking in so much content.  

Facebook, Instagram, YouTube – they are amazing resources and are entertaining, but they are full of other people fulfilling their dreams.  You need to quiet the noise.  Stop the scroll and think about what type of content you actually enjoy to look at or listen to.  These are clues.
 
Learn to meditate.

For me, meditation has been the biggest key to help me create bandwidth.  20 minutes a day has changed my life.  My brain used to be on overload, but I knew I had to release thoughts to uncover what made me light up. Meditation gives me PEACE and slows the momentum of the crazy days with three kids, work, etc.  
 
Stop watching useless, random shows.  

Don’t get me wrong.  I enjoy TV.  Always have enjoyed the escape and turning off my brain, but it wasn’t getting me anywhere.  We don’t have a limitless amount of time on this earth and I would never want to waste the precious gift of life on back-to-back Netflix marathons week after week. 
 
Instead, fill the gaps of time with reading, journaling, meditating, moving my body, personal development.  Those are actually things I enjoy and they give me clarity.  They also fill me up, so that I can have more to pour into my family.  Which, to me, is a life well lived.
 
What time-wasters could you eliminate to make space for growth?  What could you do to quiet the noise?  That little voice IS inside of you, I challenge you to want to hear it and listen.
 
For more good stuff on how to create an inspired life and make space for your dreams, check out my free guide to uncover and inspire your BEST self.
 
Tina xo

How Often Should You Meditate?

How Often Should You Meditate?
The simple answer is, as often as you can make time for it.  
 
Ideally, with mantra-based meditation, it is often recommended that you meditate for 20 minutes twice a day. 
 
Here’s the thing.  At the beginning, when you are just learning to make time for yourself and are trying to make space to squeeze meditating into your day, ANY time that you can get to sit in quiet is the perfect amount of time. 
 
The goal is simply to start making time for it.  It is like exercising.  It’s pretty hard to make the time for it until you start seeing the results and feeling the benefits.  Once you have a routine and notice a payoff, you make the time.  It then gets easier and easier and suddenly you can’t go without or you miss it.
 
So, what is the payoff to meditating?  

Well, the #1 payoff is that it reduces stress and increases feelings of relaxation and peace, but in addition to that, it helps you to relax your body, helps you connect to yourself, gives you mental clarity, helps with your focus,  lowered blood pressure, decreased inflammation in the body, helps relationships, better sleep and so much more!  
 
It really is the simplest way to set a strong foundation for physical and mental health.
 
I’m at the point in my practice now where I crave it.  If I’m feeling a little off, cranky, foggy brained, disconnected or tired, I just give myself the time to mediate for 20 minutes because I know it will increase my mood and productivity dramatically if I do.  

If you can incorporate 20 minutes twice a day, I recommend you do it once in the morning after you use the washroom and maybe have a glass of water or hot water with lemon.  
 
The second time would ideally be late afternoon or after work, but before dinner.  It will give you a sense of relaxation, but also energy, so you don’t want to do this too close to bed time or too late in the evening.
 
These time suggestions are just a guideline to be able to get the most out of your practice and your day.  In the morning, you set your day up for success and in the afternoon, you release any tension and stress you picked up that day.
 
In the end, do what works for you, but BE CONSISTENT.  As with anything else in life that is when you will see the biggest results.  Focus on the process and the progress, not perfection.
 
Namaste,
Tina xo

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