You’ve heard it a million times. DO WHAT YOU LOVE. Heck, I say it often, “do more of what you love”. I could think of so many things that I enjoy doing now, but it wasn’t always that way.
There was a time that I couldn’t even hear what my heart wanted. I didn’t really have anything I felt passionately about. I didn’t have any hobbies that I enjoyed. I was just going through the motions. I would dabble here and there, but that was about it. No time to really care about that stuff.
Is this you? Are you like, what the heck do I even want to do with myself when I have 15 minutes to spare?
Growing up, I never knew what I wanted to do. I know many people know what they wanted to be as a little girl, but that just wasn’t me. I’ve learned that I couldn’t hear my dream because it wasn’t safe to dream. I didn’t feel supported and I didn’t have high hopes. Dreaming big would have only led to disappointment, so my mind didn’t go there.
If you can relate to this, perhaps you walked a similar path to what I did. I chose the wrong relationships and didn’t have healthy boundaries and just went through the motions telling myself I was "content".
It’s so easy to tell ourselves we are happy keeping it simple and content with very little because it’s an easy way out. I felt this way and always said, I just go with the flow. This was true, but I knew deep down it was more than that.
As life got better, I married a man I love and became a mom. I busied myself with being a great mom, a good wife, a dedicated employee, kept a clean house and I actually enjoyed all of these things. Here's the thing, I STILL didn’t know what else I wanted out of life. What was I into?
I had this feeling that I was meant for something more, but it was such a faint whisper. Always with me, but never loud enough for me to really hear. Being a wife and mother was the only dream I had ever had. I had accomplished that and was living it every day, but outside of that, I felt stalled at work. I felt untapped. The question remained, what the heck was I meant to do?
Fast forward to present day, and my dreams and ideas of what is possible actually keep me up at night. In the BEST way. So how did I find them?
I DECIDED it was important to me and that I was ready to hear them.
Then, I made space for them.
We are so busy “being busy”. Telling ourselves we don’t have time, and that we are fine as things are, but we are tired and overwhelmed. Here a some suggestions that have made a HUGE difference in my life.
Learn to quiet your mind.
Seriously, if you can’t hear your dream, you need to press PAUSE on life. Take 5 minutes and sit quietly without distractions to hear what your own thoughts are.
Stop soaking in so much content.
Facebook, Instagram, YouTube – they are amazing resources and are entertaining, but they are full of other people fulfilling their dreams. You need to quiet the noise. Stop the scroll and think about what type of content you actually enjoy to look at or listen to. These are clues.
Learn to meditate.
For me, meditation has been the biggest key to help me create bandwidth. 20 minutes a day has changed my life. My brain used to be on overload, but I knew I had to release thoughts to uncover what made me light up. Meditation gives me PEACE and slows the momentum of the crazy days with three kids, work, etc.
Stop watching useless, random shows.
Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy TV. Always have enjoyed the escape and turning off my brain, but it wasn’t getting me anywhere. We don’t have a limitless amount of time on this earth and I would never want to waste the precious gift of life on back-to-back Netflix marathons week after week.
Instead, fill the gaps of time with reading, journaling, meditating, moving my body, personal development. Those are actually things I enjoy and they give me clarity. They also fill me up, so that I can have more to pour into my family. Which, to me, is a life well lived.
What time-wasters could you eliminate to make space for growth? What could you do to quiet the noise? That little voice IS inside of you, I challenge you to want to hear it and listen.
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